Being a mom for the first time is super exciting. There’s no other feeling like it in the world.
But despite all your joy you will also be exhausted and hormonal like never before during those first months.
No words can really prepare you but I want to at least give you an idea of what’s to come.
Below is the raw emotional account of many first time mothers that we’ve interviewed as well as my own. I tell you exactly how it is without sugar-coating it.
Read on to get a view of what to expect in those first amazing days.
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What It’s Like To Be A First Time Mom
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You’ll Feel Out Of Control
Right after you have your baby you will have a lot of help. You’ll be in the hospital most likely for a couple of days and everyone will help you take care of any needs you have for you and your babe.
And then you go home… and there’s something about getting there that just hits you. The feeling of overwhelm is one of the heavest feelings you will ever feel.
It happened to me with all three and to ALL the women we interviewed. It’s a thing.
The first time is the hardest though, the feelings are just so intense.
I’m not telling you this to scare you or fill you with dread. It’s just better to know it ahead of time so you can do everything you can to prepare.
Nothing really helps, of course, it is what it is, but knowing it may give you some idea of what to expect, and that alone is comforting.
You May Not Sleep For Days
A lot of times women have their babe and assume they’ll sleep when they sleep and all that.
But the truth is that there’s a good chance your baby may come in the middle of the night.
Then there will be all this hustle and bustle around you and your little one.
Once things settle down the nurses will come and massage your stomach every few hours, take your blood pressure, and all that.
When I say every few hours I mean all night too.
It’s so exhausting and annoying but they’re just trying to take care of you.
And that’s just the staff. Your baby will want to be held night and day, or at least most do.
They feel most comfortable in your arms after all the strange events that have suddenly been happening to them.
You’ll have to try to breastfeed constantly because that’s how you get your milk to come in and how the baby learns to latch well.
But holding your baby and breastfeeding will be something that you want to do so even though you’re tired it will give you drive, warmth, and energy.
Then you’ll go home and your baby will still want to be held all the time until you get into some sort of routine.
My first baby didn’t know the difference between night and day for the first week and he wanted to be nursed constantly.
I literally sat up all night long with my baby to my breast so he could sleep.
Yet the morning would come and I would still have the ability to keep happily moving forward.
It’s like you have this motivation and adrenaline rush those first weeks. It’s all pretty incredible.
You Will Be FAMISHED
There is no hunger like after childbirth hunger. I am not kidding.
To this day I have never felt anything like it. Many other mothers agree it’s crazy.
Your body will want to heal, you will be so hungry and food tastes so much richer. It’s fantastic.
So refuel yourself and listen to your body those first few weeks. Enjoy it.
The First Few Weeks You’ll Feel Like You’ve Been Hit By A Truck
You will be physically uncomfortable. I’m sure you already know that, I mean you just gave birth after all.
But I don’t think women really understand to what extent until it happens to them.
You should read this post to prepare for postpartum accordingly.
That way you can actually enjoy your baby instead of not being able to concentrate on anything other than your own body.
You’ll Feel Paranoid About Everything
When I had my first I didn’t want ANYONE to hold him except me. This is not at all uncommon.
I was afraid something would happen to him. I didn’t even want my own mom to hold him for more than a few minutes.
I felt paranoid and worried he needed me. It sounds a little neurotic, I know but lots of new moms feel this way.
Usually, by the next babe, mama has chilled a bit.
I also worried about SIDS a lot. I would sit up at night and just watch him breathe.
I did this with all three so I cannot say that changes much from baby to baby.
Some of the other mamas that we’ve talked to did the same. If you are really worried about SIDS you should this post
It gives you some really good, Science-backed advice on how to prevent it just by doing a few simple things.
You’ll Spend All Your Time Changing Diapers
I had no idea I would spend so many hours changing diapers. Newborn poop is no joke.
I mean I expected to change diapers daily but not 10 to 15, sometimes more!
I felt like the second I changed him I would have to do it again.
We were knee-deep in dirty diapers.
Do you know that Spongebob episode where Spongebob and Patrick raise a clam and Spongebob shows Patrick all the diapers?
Well not only is it super funny, but they really get the whole newborn diaper situation right.
If you have kids you’ve likely already seen it, but in case you haven’t, you should watch it below. I couldn’t resist putting the clip in.
The whole diaper changing scene is at the end.
You May Feel Lonely Or Even Sad
Not all days with your new baby will feel happy. You’ll have a lot of mixed feelings that you can’t quite pinpoint.
Just something weighing over you and pressing down.
For most, this is fleeting but for others, Postpartum Depression can set in.
If this happens, be sure to let your health care provider know immediately.
If you need a way to express and release your worries and emotions check out our mental health journal here. You can download it instantly.
Breastfeeding Isn’t As Easy As It Sounds
Breastfeeding is a beautiful thing, but it does not come easily or naturally to mother and babe.
Most think it would but that is not the case at all, and you need to educate yourself beforehand if you plan to breastfeed.
Some hospitals can help, but others are very ill-equipped to do this so you can’t count on them for advice.
Here’s a great online breastfeeding course that’s only $19. It’s called Milkology and it’s THE online resource for breastfeeding.
You Have A Whole Mind-Life Shift With Your First Babe
Once your babe arrives you have this whole reality shift.
You go from everything being about you to being selfless and caring about someone more than you do yourself.
It’s fairly intense. Your whole world changes.
You know that it will be like this after your baby arrives but you can’t really prepare for it.
It’s strange and interesting but it’s a good feeling.
In The End…..
Having your first baby is the most elating experience you’ll likely ever have.
It will feel great to have your other little ones too, but there’s nothing like the first.
It’s just a really special experience. A difficult one too.
I hope this information has prepared a bit for the ups and downs you’ll experience during your special time.
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